More random thoughts

I am having a hard time cutting myself any slack these days. I know better in my head, but I just can’t seem to get there in my heart on some issues.

I seem to have an especially hard time believing in myself when someone else presents their reality of me, and it doesn’t quite click with my reality of me. I am usually willing to toss my reality out the window and make the other person right. This is not necessarily the way to go. While I truly do want to consider what others have to say, it is important for me to remember that no one know me like I know me. The reality is that I do know that I have flaws, and that I am working on them. I know that I am far from perfect, I also know that I am working on myself. And I am willing to listen to constructive criticism. However, that does not mean that I need to believe that others know me better than I do, or that I need to put myself into situations to be beaten up. Others may be able to see things that I am blind to, but nobody knows what is in my heart but me.

I have come to the realization that I do not always get to know why someone acts like they do. And I have also come to the realization that even though I am willing to listen to what others have to say, it does matter how they say it. If something is presented in a way that makes me want to crawl into a hole, everything that is said is going to be lost. As I said, I am only human. What is said may be true, or it may not be. It really doesn’t matter. You can talk to me in a way that will make me want to be open to what you say, or you can talk to me in a way that will totally shut me down. It’s up to you.

You are never responsible for how someone reacts to what you say. And you are always responsible for how you say things.


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