It’s time to take a look at that second question in the post on changing  perspectives. Is there something I am not admitting to myself here? Is there something I am not seeing, or not admitting to seeing? This is a tough question sometimes. Often the answer is so close to you that you have a hard time seeing it by yourself. What are the kinds of things that you may be hiding here?
If you want to change your perspective on something, try asking yourself what you are contributing to the situation. Perhaps you have brought bad feelings from a previous encounter to this one.  Maybe you’re put out because your spouse left the dishes for you to do, and even though your current conversation has nothing to do with the dishes, the feeling is hanging like a cloud over your head, and it is affecting the conversation. Or perhaps you had a bad encounter with someone at work, and those feelings are hanging over and affecting your encounter with your teenager. If you can realize what you brought to the situation with you, you can decide whether or not it belongs in the current situation.
Or maybe you have an underlying belief about something that is clouding your view of the current situation. Maybe it is something that you were taught as a child, and it served you well then. Maybe you should take that belief out of the dark and examine it and see if it still serves you. It might, but then again it might not. What you choose to do with it is up to you, but make a conscious decision about it – don’t just hang onto it because it is what you always believed.
These questions may help you get a different perspective of whatever issue you are dealing with. As always, your comments are welcome.
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