I ask for help when I need it. I wasn’t always this way; I used to think asking for help was a sign of weakness and that it made me a burden. I was sure that no one would want to be my friend if I needed help.
Well, I have changed my mind. Maybe it’s because I need more help than I used to. I have realized recently that I am more of a burden to my friends if I won’t ask for help when I need it. I really don’t want people to worry about me, but they do if they think I am doing things I shouldn’t be doing by myself. People have convinced me that they don’t have to worry about me as much if they know that I will not attempt to do things without help. I don’t always need help, and if I ask for it when I need it, people can relax around me knowing just that.
It’s still hard to ask for help. There is a feeling that I grew up with that says if I ask for help, people will think I can’t do things on my own. Well, guess what…there ARE things that I can’t do on my own anymore. There are also things that I can sometimes do on my own, and sometimes I can’t. If I ask for help when I need it, when I don’t ask for help, people assume that I am fine. This has been a hard lesson to learn, and I think I am finally learning it.
So I am learning to ask for help: whether it is professionally or personally. My lesson is that I am far less of a burden when people know that I will ask for what I need.
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